Start Dating a much shorter man

Dating a much shorter man

However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.

Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.

Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.

That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground.

That self-consciousness definitely stems over into my dating life too, and with online dating even more.

The root cause of all that self-consciousness is that toxic masculinity garbage that makes us believe the taller you are, the "manlier" you are, and the better you are.

Chaya: I remember being teased for being short in middle school, as my girl friends had their puberty growth spurts and I stayed the same from sixth grade until forever.

It's a part of myself I've fought, manipulated, resented, and struggled to embrace for over half of my life.

So when people inevitably criticize me for taking men's comments about my height too personally, I'm the first to agree. And I haven't worked this hard to love my body for some guy to nonchalantly tell me how to feel about it over a gin and tonic.

But over time, I noticed that it was hardly a problem in my dating life — in fact, almost all of the guys I dated in my teens and twenties were six feet or taller.

That's not to say that tall men are better, but that my own physical size didn't restrict me to any specific height range within the straight male population.

While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.